How To Make Your Husband Regret Taking You For Granted

A marriage is based on love, respect, and appreciation. Over time, one of the spouses may begin to take the other for granted.

However, in a marriage, taking a partner for granted is not exactly fair. Your husband should be thankful for the person you are in his life.

If your husband is taking you for granted in the relationship, you might have run out of patience. If you are tired of trying and not feeling good enough, you can do something to make him regret it.

In this way, he will not only appreciate you in the future but also avoid making the same mistake again.

How to Make Your Husband Regret Taking You for Granted

1. Spot the Signs That Your Husband Takes You for Granted

When he is not doing anything to change the way he treats you, you need to make him regret taking you for granted in marriage. But before taking such a step, you must know the signs of being taken for granted. You should first have a clear picture of your husband’s behavior and compare it with the things you dislike.

The signs may not always be glaring. If you feel you are being taken for granted, here are some ways to make your husband regret it.

Signs That Your Husband Takes You for Granted:

He no longer appreciates you: He might forget to thank you for preparing his meals or doing household chores.
Your emotions and feelings are always ignored or undermined while he is always right.
Lack of effort in the relationship: He no longer plans dates or spends quality time with you. He is less interested in having meaningful conversations.
You are the only one working: You are always in the kitchen, doing the dishes, giving the kids baths, and taking care of them while he lazes around the house all day.

2. Start Loving and Respecting Yourself

When a man takes you for granted, you will need to start by loving and respecting yourself.

This will bring back the self-respect that your husband has caused you to lose. Your main focus should be on how to make yourself happy. By doing so, he will see the changes and know that you are not a pushover.

Why It Works:

When you focus on yourself, he will be forced to notice the extra effort you’re making for yourself. He will realize that you are making yourself happy and that he is not part of your happiness-making machine. This will make him start taking good care of you and never repeat the mistakes that made you stop loving him.

How to Do It:

Self-care: Take extra good care of yourself. Shower yourself with extra emotional and physical care.
Healthy boundaries: Stop giving him all the love and care. Set boundaries to limit his access to your emotional energy. Make sure your actions match your words, and don’t be the only one giving while he takes everything.
Focus on what you like: Work hard on yourself. Focus on hobbies, advancing your career, or building great friendships. The more perfect you are for yourself, the more he will come crawling back, begging for your forgiveness and attention.

3. Express Your Feelings Properly

The next thing to do when your husband is taking you for granted is to express your feelings the right way.

Instead of bursting out in anger, tell him exactly how you feel about the way he’s treating you. In most cases, men do not even realize they are taking their women for granted. A gentle reminder may be all that’s needed.

Why It Works:

Men are sensitive beings. When you express yourself rightly, he will have to listen to what you have to say. He will have no choice but to work extra hard to make you love him again.

How to Do It:

Choose the right time: This should not be when he’s angry or when you’re in a disagreement. Wait for a calm moment when you both are sober and ready to talk.
Use the right words: Use “I” statements. Your wording should avoid blaming him and instead focus on your feelings.
Be specific about what you want: Instead of saying, “You need to help more,” specify what help you need.
Allow him to express his opinions: Don’t dominate the conversation. Let him share his side as well.

4. Give Him Some Space

If your husband has been taking you for granted for a long time, the next way to make him regret it is by keeping some distance.

You do not have to be cold or aloof towards him. Instead, you can be the perfect woman he never knew. By doing so, you will make him regret taking you for granted.

Why It Works:

Men are sensitive and fragile in nature. The space you create will make him chase you. He will appreciate you more than ever before and learn to value and respect you.

How to Do It:

Stop doing extra for him: The first thing to stop doing is always being the one who does everything for him and everyone in his life.
Focus on other areas: Be busy with your hobbies. Spend time with friends or focus on self-care.
Create space for him to miss you: Don’t always be available for him. Stop initiating every action, and give him space to miss you.

5. Stop Being the Invisible Partner

Another effective way to make your husband regret taking you for granted is to stop being the invisible partner.

The invisible partner is always the doormat in a relationship—doing everything for the partner while expecting nothing in return.

Why It Works:

By not being his invisible partner, your husband will appreciate and love you more. He will see what he has lost and will go out of his way to make sure you don’t leave him.

How to Do It:

Ask for help: Get others to do things for you, leaving the big tasks for your husband.
Face the consequences: Don’t always clean up after your husband. Let him clean up his own messes.
Say what you need: Don’t suffer in silence. Speak up about what you need and want.

6. Reignite the Spark and Connection in the Marriage

The reason most men take their partners for granted is the lack of romance in the relationship.

Your husband needs to be reminded that you are still the woman he fell in love with. By bringing back the spark in your relationship, you can make him regret taking you for granted.

Why It Works:

Romance works effectively in relationships. By keeping the romance alive, your husband will love you more than ever before.

How to Do It:

Romantic gestures: Send him messages, plan dates, or cook him a romantic dinner.
Plan quality time: Spend enough time together. Plan fun and exciting dates, or spend weekends together.
Be more physical: Physical contact, such as hand-holding, hugs, or kissing, helps reignite the spark in your relationship.

Conclusion

The greatest mistake a man can make is taking his woman for granted. When this happens, it’s easy for a woman to love her man again by following these steps. If you love your man, this should not be the dynamic in your marriage.

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Onwe Damian Chukwuemeka is a relationship and self-improvement coach, as well as a final-year law student at the University of Calabar, Nigeria. He has distinguished himself in leadership and service, and has held key positions such as Deputy Director of Public Prosecution in the Students’ Union Government and Justice of the Malabor High Court, University of Calabar, Nigeria. Learn more about him

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