Sound communication is the foundation of any robust relationship. It’s important to occasionally check-in with your partner on various aspects of your relationship. These so-called ‘relationship check-in’ questions can help you gauge where you’re at, identify any potential issues, and ultimately strengthen your bond. The key to an effective check-in is to approach it with genuine openness and a willingness to both listen and share. To guide such discussions, we have compiled a comprehensive list of 100 relationship check-in questions.
The importance of regular relationship check-ins
As Better Health rightly said, “open and honest communication is essential for a healthy relationship.” The essence of relationship check in questions is to help you examine or analyze the progress of your relationship, how your partner feels, and what can be done to improve the relationship.
A statistic by National Library of Medicine shows that communication issues is one of the top reasons for dissatisfaction in a relationship.
As Brian Tracy quoted, “the quality of love and the duration of a relationship are in direct proportion to the depth of the commitment by both people to making the relationship successful.”- Brian Tracy. This level of commitment can be shown by asking each other questions and by looking for a new way to improve the relationship.
So, to help keep your relationship stronger, we have compiled a list of questions to ask your partner in order to check or examine the progress of your relationship.
Relationship Check in Questions
- Are you happy with our level of physical intimacy?
- Are there any unresolved issues we need to address?
- How well do you think we handle conflict?
- Do you feel appreciated in our relationship?
- What’s one thing I do that makes you feel loved?
- Do I respect you?
- Are you satisfied with our division of household labor?
- How can I better support you in your daily life?
- What’s your favorite shared memory with me?
- Does our relationship provide you with enough emotional security?
- What potential problems do you foresee in our future together?
- What goals do we share as a couple?
- How do you perceive our financial situations?
- Do you have any relationship fears?
- What can we do to enrich our relationship further?
- What does a good day look like to you?
- Can you recall a recent situation where you felt misunderstood by me?
- What’s one thing you’d like to do differently than your parents did?
- Are you content with our social life?
- How can we better communicate?
- Are our life goals and values aligning?
- What can we do to improve our understanding of each other’s emotions?
- Are there any areas in our relationship where you feel we can improve?
- How can we make our relationship stronger?.
- What are some significant recent changes in our relationship, and how do you feel about them?
- What was a recent fight about and what did you learn from it?
- Do you feel we give each other enough space and independence?
- Are there any concerns or stresses that you’re currently dealing with, that you’d like me to understand better?
- What are some actions or behaviors of mine that might be inadvertently hurting you?
- Can you talk about a past relationship conflict and how it made you feel?
- Do you feel that our relationship has a healthy balance of giving and taking?
- Do you feel that we respect and honor each other’s boundaries?
- What are your feelings about our financial situation and future planning?
- Do you feel that our relationship is a priority in your life?
- What are our major conflicts, and how do you suggest we can resolve them?
- When do you feel the most connected to me?
- Do you believe we are being the best partners we can be for each other?
- What positive aspects of our relationship do you think we should focus more on?
- How do you feel when we spend time apart, and do you think we have a good balance between together and apart time?
- Are there any dreams or goals you have that you feel are not being met in our relationship?
- Do you feel you can openly share your feelings with me?
- What expectations do you have for our relationship that have not been met?
- Are there habits or tendencies of mine that could be impacting our relationship?
- Do you feel that our relationship supports your personal growth?
- Do you have any fear or concern about our relationship?
- What are three things we can do together this year to strengthen our relationship?
- Do you feel heard and understood when we have disagreements?
- What unfinished business or unresolved issues do we have that need to be addressed?
- Do you feel our love for each other is growing, remaining the same, or lessening?
- How can we create more fun and enjoyment in our relationship?
- Do you feel our relationship is moving at a pace that is comfortable for you?
- Do you feel we equally contribute to the relationship?
- What is something new or exciting that you would like to try together?
- Are there any role changes you would like to see in our relationship?
- What is your favorite memory of us, and why does it stand out?
- What are some things we can do to ensure our relationship continues to grow and evolve?
- How would you describe the state of our relationship to a friend?
- Do you feel that our communication skills need improving?
- What do you most appreciate about our relationship?
- What are the obstacles to achieving optimal satisfaction in our relationship?
- Do you feel confident about the future of our relationship?
- How are we doing in terms of managing and resolving conflict?
- Are you happy with how we are dealing with each other’s families and friends?
- What is one thing you wish I understood about you?
- How can I better support you in your daily life?
- How do you want our relationship to look a year from now?
- What does commitment mean to you in the context of our relationship?
- Do you trust me, and do you feel trusted by me?
- Are we investing enough time into maintaining our relationship health?
- What is your favorite part of our daily routine together?
- What’s one behavior or trait of mine that you think I should change for the better?
- Are there unresolved past issues that are affecting our present relationship?
- Do you believe that we share the same goals when it comes to raising our children?
- How can we further deepen our emotional intimacy?
- Do you feel we support each other in our individual pursuits?
- Are you satisfied with the level of honesty and transparency in our relationship?
- How do you feel about how we make decisions together?
- What are some physical attributes that you find attractive about me?
- What’s your idea of a perfect date, and are we having enough of them?
- Do we need to redefine or reevaluate any relationship boundaries?
- What are some things we could do to increase our mutual respect?
- Are there any fears or insecurities you want to discuss?
- Is there anything about our relationship that worries or disturbs you?
- What makes you feel excited about us?
- How would you rate our compatibility, in terms of interests, hobbies, and personalities?
- Do you feel we handle anger and disagreements in a healthy way?
- What are the top three things you love the most about our relationship?
- How satisfied are you with our social life as a couple?
- What are your suggestions for dealing with external factors affecting our relationship?
- Do you think our relationship has matured over time?
- How would you like to celebrate our relationship milestones?
- How much does our relationship contribute to your overall happiness?
- Would you like to revisit any past relationship agreements?
- Do you feel our relationship positively impacts other areas of your life?
- How could we make our day-to-day life more romantic or playful?
- Are you satisfied with the amount of time we spend together?
- Do we share the same vision when it comes to our lifestyle and living arrangements?
- What’s one thing you want us to achieve as a couple in the next five years?
- How do you handle the differences between us, and what can I do to make it easier for you?
- What role does our relationship play in your personal dreams and aspirations?
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Onwe Damian Chukwuemeka is a relationship writer, a law student and a student advocate. He was the former Deputy Director of Public Prosecution SUG, University of Calabar, Nigeria, and currently one of the Judges of the High Court of the Student Union Government, University of Calabar. Learn more about him
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