No matter how much you think a narcissist loves you, there are certain things narcissists will never do for you. Today, I will be sharing some of these things with you.
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What Narcissism Really Means
Narcissism is when someone is overly focused on themselves. They often think they’re more important than others and constantly want attention and praise. While some people just have narcissistic traits, others may have Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), which can seriously affect their relationships and work life.
People with strong narcissistic traits usually lack empathy, exaggerate their achievements, and often manipulate others to get what they want. In relationships, everything tends to revolve around them, leaving their partner’s needs ignored or dismissed.
There are two main types of narcissists:
2. Covert narcissists may seem shy or sensitive, but they still believe they’re better than others. They just hide it more.
Knowing these signs can help you understand why dealing with a narcissist often feels one-sided and emotionally draining.
Below are a few things I have discovered that narcissists don't like doing for and to others.
Things narcissists will never do for you
1. They Don’t Apologize Sincerely
Narcissists hate admitting when they’re wrong. Even if they do apologize, it’s usually fake or just to avoid consequences, not because they actually feel sorry. They might say something like, “I’m sorry you feel that way,” which shifts blame to you instead of owning up to their actions.
Being with someone who never takes real responsibility can mess with your head. You might find yourself constantly doubting your feelings or wondering if you’re overreacting. That’s because their fake apologies don’t bring healing or change—just more confusion.
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2. They Don’t Support Your Dreams
If you’re hoping your partner will cheer you on as you chase your goals, don’t count on a narcissist. They’re not interested in your dreams unless they benefit them. They might ignore your achievements, make fun of your ambitions, or even try to talk you out of them.
You could be excited about a new opportunity, and instead of encouragement, you get eye-rolls or silence. This kind of emotional neglect can wear you down and make you question your worth. Over time, you may stop sharing your goals altogether, just to avoid their dismissive reactions.
3. They Can’t Handle Criticism
Narcissists take any kind of feedback as a personal attack. Even gentle or helpful criticism can set them off. Instead of listening, they’ll either get defensive, blame someone else, or shut down the conversation completely.
They struggle with this because, deep down, they fear being exposed as imperfect. So rather than face that fear, they protect their ego at all costs—even if it means shutting you out or twisting your words. This makes open, honest communication almost impossible.
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4. They Don’t Put Your Needs First
In a healthy relationship, both people make an effort to care for each other. But with a narcissist, it’s all about them. They expect your world to revolve around their wants, and they rarely consider what you might need.
They might forget important dates, ignore your feelings, or avoid helping when you’re going through a tough time. Even when you try to talk about it, they’ll often flip the script and make it about themselves. You end up feeling unseen, unheard, and completely drained.
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5. They Won’t Be Vulnerable With You
Real intimacy requires vulnerability—sharing your true thoughts, feelings, and fears. But narcissists avoid that at all costs. They see vulnerability as weakness, so they keep their guard up and only show you what they want you to see.
This lack of emotional openness keeps relationships shallow. You may feel like you’re connecting one minute, only to be shut out the next. And when you open up, they may mock you or brush your feelings aside, making you feel alone and misunderstood.
6. They Won’t Change for You
You might think, “If I just love them enough, they’ll change.” But the truth is, narcissists don’t believe they need to change. They think they’re already right, and any suggestion otherwise is seen as an insult.
You could spend years hoping they’ll realize how their actions hurt you. But chances are, they’ll keep blaming others or making excuses. Without a strong reason to change, like their own deep desire to grow, it’s unlikely they ever will.
7. They Won’t Show Real Love
Narcissists may say “I love you,” but their version of love is often shallow and self-serving. They may shower you with attention when they want something, but it’s conditional. Once your needs start to interfere with their wants, the affection fades.
True love is about giving, caring, and putting someone else’s needs on equal footing with your own. Narcissists struggle with this because they lack empathy. Their love is usually more about control or image than genuine connection.
Final Thoughts:
Being in a relationship with a narcissist can feel confusing, lonely, and emotionally exhausting. You might keep hoping things will change, but the same patterns repeat: no real support, no accountability, and no emotional depth.
The first step to protecting yourself is recognizing the signs. Ask yourself: Do they support me? Do they take responsibility for their actions? Do I feel emotionally safe with them? If the answer is no, it might be time to rethink the relationship.
You deserve love that’s real, where your voice matters, your dreams are supported, and your feelings are respected. Don’t settle for anything less.
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