You know those movies where the main character walks into a room, and suddenly you feel like the world is moving with them? They’re confident, and they have purpose. They are unstoppable—not because they’re better than everyone else, but because they’re their own person.
So, why don’t we live our lives like that?
Living life like the main character isn’t about being selfish, egotistical, or walking around like you’re better than everyone else. It’s about taking your power back and making a decision to stop letting life happen to you.
It’s about owning your story—your unique, beautiful, wild, messy, and sometimes painful story.
It’s about knowing your worth.
It’s about finally living like it.
So, how do we actually become the main character in our own story?
How to Be the Main Character in Your Life
1. Know What Main Character Energy (MC Energy) Means
Let’s face it—MC Energy has been kind of overdone on the internet. It’s a trend now, a meme, something you see plastered all over TikTok.
But under all the Buzzfeed quizzes and Taylor Swift lyrics is something worth exploring.
MC Energy isn’t fancy lattes and movie-esque coming-of-age moments (though it can include those—and they’re a nice addition to life).
MC Energy is about taking your life off autopilot, about choosing instead of drifting, about acting instead of waiting, and most of all, about truly believing that you are a person worth making a fuss over.
MC Energy is when:
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You’re actively making decisions that you know are in your best interest, even when they’re not comfortable.
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You’re willing to walk away from anything or anyone that doesn’t bring out the best in you.
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You’re no longer a side character in someone else’s story.
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You’re no longer just waiting for life to happen to you—you are creating your story in real time.
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2. Know Your “Why”
Every main character needs a reason to be who they are. In the movies, it’s the call to action—the impossible mission, the inner fire that gives the character motivation to keep going through the good and the bad.
In real life, we all have a “why,” though yours may not be quite so dramatic. It could be something as small and simple as wanting to live your life as a kind person, to create, to heal, to be at peace, or to make your younger self proud.
Whatever it is, take the time to really think about and get clear on what your “why” is.
Ask yourself:
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What am I most passionate about?
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What is important to me?
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What makes me feel the most alive?
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What do I want most in my life?
When you know your “why,” the choices become easier to make. You’ll start to live with more intention, and you’ll find your days, weeks, months, and years begin to have more meaning.
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3. Romanticize Your Life
One of the best ways to embrace MC Energy is to simply think about your life in a more cinematic way.
No, we don’t mean living like you’re in a fantasy novel. But you can start to romanticize your life by appreciating and noticing all the little details you used to take for granted.
Like the smell of coffee in the morning.
The way the sun shines on your face when you go for a walk.
The song that makes your commute feel like a movie.
It’s about narrating your life with love and appreciation. The next time you walk down the street, don’t slump your shoulders—hold your head high. The next time you’re going through a hard time, remind yourself that this is not the end of your story; it’s just a difficult middle part.
Romanticizing your life isn’t about denying the hard or unpleasant parts—it’s about appreciating the good parts so much that you stay present and grateful, even when it’s difficult.
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4. Don’t Compare Your Life to Anyone Else’s
Movies, books, and people are all different. Some start strong and peak early; others take a while to find their footing. Everyone has their own story, and everyone has their own timeline.
Comparing yourself to others is like comparing a murder mystery to a rom-com—they’re two different genres and aren’t really comparable.
The more time and energy you spend watching other people’s stories, the more your own story starts to fall out of focus. Watching other people’s highlight reels is easy (that’s why social media can be so draining)—but you never see the struggles that make the successes possible.
When you see others doing well, try to shift your mindset:
Instead of thinking, “I’m so far behind them,” think, “If it’s possible for them, it’s also possible for me.”
Your timing is yours. The stars will align for you when it’s time.
Related: How To Make Your Life A Fairytale
5. Create Boundaries and Hold Your Energy Sacred
Life will never go the way you planned if you let other people, things, and energies run your life.
Boundaries are what allow you to keep your energy focused and centered. Think of them as doors with locks—you get to decide when to open and close them, on your own terms.
Boundaries mean deciding what and who is allowed in your space and who isn’t.
They’re you saying no to things that don’t align with your life, even when they’re “good opportunities.”
They’re taking time for yourself and resting without feeling guilty about it.
They’re cutting ties with relationships that feel one-sided.
If you need practice with boundaries, start small:
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Unfollow people on social media or take breaks when it becomes too much.
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Keep your mornings or evenings (or both) as your own “you time.”
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Stop explaining or apologizing for your boundaries to people who don’t respect them.
A main character knows their peace is non-negotiable.
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6. Start to Create a Character Arc
Your life is a series. Every year, every month, every week is a new chapter—a new chance for you to grow.
Life will throw you challenges. It will throw you curveballs. It will test you. It will hurt you. If you’ve made mistakes, so be it—there’s no need to beat yourself up. The best characters are always flawed.
If something in your life is challenging or hard, try to find the good in it. Ask yourself:
“What can I learn from this?”
This is a mantra that can turn pain into progress. It’s a way of looking at hardships as not permanent, but as the temporary lessons you need right now to grow.
You fail, you learn. You get rejected, you get redirected. You hit rock bottom, you find out how strong you really are.
Growth doesn’t come in easy times. It comes when you decide that your hardships are not there to break you, but to make you better.
7. Invest in Yourself
Main characters don’t wait for a knight in shining armor to come and “save” them.
Invest in yourself. Build yourself up.
Investing in yourself means doing things that make you feel good in your body, mind, and soul. It could be:
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Learning new things, even just for fun.
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Moving your body in a way that feels good.
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Eating food that nourishes your body.
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Surrounding yourself with people who push and inspire you.
Investing in yourself also means taking risks.
Start that business you’ve been thinking about.
Go on that solo trip.
Post that creative project you’ve been too nervous to share with the world.
The more you invest in yourself, the more you start to believe in yourself—and that belief will change everything.
8. Create an Environment That Suits Your Life
The environment you’re in impacts your energy more than you might think.
If you’re in a messy room, it’s hard to feel grounded and collected. If you’re around negative people, it’s hard to feel motivated or excited about your own life.
To create better energy in your life, start by cleaning up your space. The more external clutter you clear, the more mental clutter you clear, too.
Start listening to music that lifts you up, not brings you down.
Fill your home with books, art, and music that inspire you.
Surround yourself with people who make you excited to be alive—people who celebrate your wins instead of competing with you.
When you create a space that serves you, you’re setting the stage for your story, not depleting yourself.
9. Take Ownership
The real main character move is accountability.
It’s easy to blame other people, circumstances, or luck for what happens to you in life.
But the moment you take ownership of your own life, you step into your power.
You cannot always control what happens to you—but you can control how you respond, what you learn, and how you let it affect you moving forward.
Start shifting from “Why is this happening to me?” to “What can I do with this?”
You may not have control over what happens to you, but you do have control over the person you choose to be when bad things happen. And that’s where all your power lies.
10. Celebrate Your Small Wins
We live in a society where we move from goal to goal without pausing to acknowledge our progress.
But if there’s one thing to take from the movies, it’s to celebrate the wins. Main characters don’t take themselves too seriously—they know how to have a good time.
So take the time to celebrate when you’ve accomplished a goal or task, even if it’s small.
You finished that project? Pat yourself on the back and treat yourself.
You stuck with a new habit for a week? Write it down in your journal.
You made it through a hard day? That’s worth celebrating too.
Acknowledge those small moments that were once a challenge but are now part of your new normal. They may seem small and insignificant, but every little step in the right direction is a point in your plotline. Don’t skip the montage of your progress—it’s usually the most epic.
11. Live for the Story, Not the Aesthetic
One of the problems with living like the main character is that we get caught up in the superficial parts.
We forget to focus on the small things that really matter and instead get caught up in making our lives look good, even when they don’t feel good.
Real MC Energy is when you can feel the beauty in real, unfiltered, and often messy moments. It’s when you cry when you need to and laugh as loud as you want. It’s taking risks that might not make sense to anyone else.
Live for the story, not the aesthetic. Your life is your own, and no one can live it for you—so why spend it on things that don’t resonate with you?
12. You’re Still Writing the Story
Maybe you’re in a chapter of life right now that makes no sense to you—that you don’t know why you’re even in. You may feel lost, confused, or even a bit mad at your life.
Know this: that doesn’t mean your story is over. It doesn’t mean it’s not worth living or that you’re “behind.” It just means that it’s still being written.
Every main character hits a low before the big breakthrough, and every great story has a plot twist that changes everything.
Give yourself grace. You’re not behind. You’re evolving and learning. You are becoming who you need to be.
Your story is worth living, and you are worthy of being the main character—today. Not tomorrow, not someday, but right now.
Final Thoughts
Being the main character of your life doesn’t mean you’re in control of life; it means you’re present in it. It’s about showing up for your life with your whole self.
It’s waking up in the morning and knowing with every fiber of your being that this is your story. You might not know what happens next, but you are choosing to be here for it.
Remember, at the end of the day, no one is living your life the way you can live it.
And that is what makes it worth living.
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