Having a new crush can be so exciting. But when your relationship with your crush doesn’t work out, you end up being crushed. It is hard to stop thinking about someone you love let alone getting over those feelings. But in this post, I’m going to share with you, 15 ways on how to get over a crush. These tips will help you stop developing feelings for your crush and move on.
There is nothing wrong with having a crush, but should you continue crushing on a girl or a guy that doesn’t want to know how you feel about them?
Getting rid of the feelings you have for someone doesn’t happen instantly. It takes time to stop liking your crush. Unrequited love pains. It pains to see that your crush is available, but he or she doesn’t return your feelings
Whether your crush is someone you see every day, a friend, or a coworker. And whether he or she ignores you, or that they are already in a relationship, here are some tips on how to stop crushing on them and move on.
So, if you are looking for a way to get out of a crush, here are some tips to help you stop getting obsessed with your crush. Whether you want to get over the feelings you have for your crush by breaking up with them, or by not thinking about them again, below are some ideas on what to do.
What is a crush?
A crush is an infatuated feeling for someone. It is an infatuation because it is short-termed. It doesn’t last long like love. Take a look at the difference between love and a crush.
Why do crushes happen?
Research shows that “Crushes are rooted in fantasy and tend to happen when you don’t know much about a person, but idealize what they are like.” Therefore, as you get closer to your crush and develop real-life experience with them, the crush can turn into something more.
How to get over a crush: Who ignores you
If you are having a hard time moving on from a crush who snubs you, these tips will help you let go.
1. Accept the fact that they are not interested
Getting over a crush who ignores you is only possible when you accept defeat. You have to admit that your crush doesn’t like you, and therefore, you can never get his or her attention.
There is a saying that goes like this-“Never beg someone to love or be with you. If you do, then be ready to beg them to stay. ” That is the same thing that happens when you force yourself on someone. If they finally agree, you will always beg them to stay.
2. Control your emotions
Human feelings are very powerful. But that doesn’t mean you can’t control them.
Whenever you find yourself overthinking about your crush, pause, and ask yourself if this thought is worth it. If not, distract yourself immediately.
Research shows that “you can control your emotions by taking a look at the impact of your feelings. Whether they affect you negatively or positively.
Getting in control of how you feel about your crush, and what you think about them is another way to get over the feelings you have for him or her.
Are you having some challenges in controlling your feelings, here’s how to control your emotions in a relationship.
3. Start ignoring them too
The best way to move on from someone who ignores you is to start ignoring them also. For instance, if they always act as if they didn’t notice you in a group or when you approach them, then start acting that way towards them also. It is not childish. Rather, it is called self-respect. It is good to respect those who respect you and ignore those who try to dishonor you.
If your crush always snubs you online by ignoring your texts or phone calls, then you should consider subbing them too. For instance, if you have been commenting on their profile or pictures without getting any reply, then you should stop it.
Read also: Interesting questions to ask your crush.
4. Remove them from your social media account if possible
Another way to get over your crush is to block them on your social media accounts. But if you find it too childish to do so, then you should avoid looking at their profiles. Everyone falls victim to this (always checking your crush’s or ex’s profile) while trying to get rid of someone from our life. That is why most people find it difficult to recuperate from a breakup.
If you don’t feel like blocking your crush on social networks, then you should stop checking and re-checking their profile. Viewing their social media account will remind you or tell you how amazing your crush is, and everything you have missed about them.
5. Consider dating another person that has the qualities you like in your crush
We often develop a crush on someone because of what we think about them. You may feel attracted to your crush because of their appearance, their dressing, their personality, or whatever reason you have in mind. And that is why, when you start developing feelings for someone, you will always think they are perfect and you cannot find someone else who has the same qualities like them. I have experienced that before. But the truth is that there are millions of people in the world who have the same qualities you admire about your crush.
Therefore, look for another person that shares the same value or personality traits you admire about your crush and date them or start crushing on them.
If your crush is someone you see every day
If you are crushing on your friend, a coworker, or even your boss, it is possible that you will always see each other every day. Below are some tips on how to get over the feelings you have for a crush you see every day.
6. Try changing your environment
Consider traveling to a far place where you will hardly remember anything about them. A new environment brings a new experience. This will help you to stop thinking about your crush, and also lessen or reduce the romantic feelings you have for them. But if it is not something you can change your environment, then consider the second tip below.
7. Let your communication with them be formal
Since you cannot change your location or place of work, I suggest you try to make your communication with your crush as formal as possible. What do I mean?
Instead of spending time chatting or discussing with your crush at your workplace, you should only initiate a conversation with them whenever there is a need for that. Just try to focus on what you are doing and mind your business in order to maintain a clear space between you and the person you are crushing on.
8. Always distract yourself with something more serious
You may be tempted to start thinking about your crush after seeing them. But for you to get rid of those thoughts and feelings, you have to distract yourself with something more serious.
For instance, distract your thoughts by playing games on your phone, logging in to your social media account, or calling a loved one. This will help you get over those feelings immediately.
If your crush is already in a relationship
If you are crushing on someone who is already married or in a relationship, or that you are in a relationship yourself, here are some tips on how to stop having feelings for that crush.
9. Avoid contacting him or her
To move on from a crush who is already in a relationship, cease all forms of communication with them. You may not have to unfriend them on social media, but make sure you delete their contacts if you really want to remove them totally from your life.
If they are the one who calls you, and you want to end the relationship with them, then you should consider snubbing or rejecting their calls.
10. Have a heart to heart discussion with them
It is better to open up to your crush and let them know that you are no longer interested in the relationship. The best way to do that is to have a one on one conversation with them and tell them that the relationship is over since they are already dating someone else.
If your crush doesn’t like you
Below are some tips on how to get over a crush that doesn’t like you.
11. Move on
Walk away from someone who doesn’t love you. Love is not by force. There are no two ways about how to stop liking a crush who doesn’t like you if not to move on with your life. You will surely meet another person who will treat you like the king or queen that you are.
12. Allow yourself to feel sad
There is nothing wrong with feeling bad or depressed simply because you were rejected by someone you love. In fact, I tend to improve my life better than as it was before whenever I get rejected.
So, allow yourself to grieve the loss of what you hoped for. It will help you to make up your mind to let go of your crush and move on with your life.
13. Pull away from them and make new friends
You have passed the grieving stage. What next? Let go and make new friends.
Unlike a new environment, new friends bring new experiences and a new lifestyle. Instead of continuing to dwell on your past feelings, you should go out and make new friends especially the opposite sex. This will help you to get rid of the feelings you have for your crush.
14. Share your feelings with a friend
Friends are one of the closest families we have. A piece of advice from a friend is capable of helping you get out of a crush. Therefore, share your feelings with a friend you trust, who will also advise you on what to do.
15. Give it time
You may not get over a crush overnight. But with time and patience, you will find yourself not feeling the same way you have felt about your crush. Therefore, do not force yourself to let go of the feelings you have for someone if you can’t get over them now. Give it time and you will find yourself recovering.
If you have slept with your crush and want to delete them from your life, it will not just happen. You need to give yourself some time in order to let go.