Emotions are powerful. They can either build or destroy your relationship. Negative feelings like anger, jealousy or insecurity, frustration, and depression should always be in check in order to maintain a healthy and happy relationship. But what if you’ve done your best to be in control of yourself during an emotional upsurge but to no avail. Are there ways you can be less emotional under such circumstances? In this post, you’re going to learn some of the ways to gain control over your emotions in a relationship.
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Uncontrolled feelings often lead to conflict in a relationship. For instance, most couples or lovers end up in breakups, fighting, quarreling, or mad at themselves as a result of their inability to manage their emotions.
Below are some steps to take to keep your emotions under your control.
How to control your emotions in a relationship?
1.Be calm when you’re upset
People who stay calm tend to manage their emotions when they’re exasperated.
Be slow to speak when you’re angry with your partner. If possible, avoid talking or responding to him or her at that moment, until you recover.
Words spoken out of anger are more destructive than you can imagine. Although, it is difficult to remain calm when you’re mad at someone. But it is the best way to put yourself together when you experience a negative emotional upsurge.
2. Do not be quick to judge your partner
Avoid being in a haste to judge and condemn your partner before hearing from them. Rather, be willing to listen and hear from them first, before jumping to a conclusion.
It will help you, especially if you have any negative thoughts or feelings against your significant other.
3. Know why you feel that way
Do you feel like your partner is cheating on you? Or are they other reasons why you feel insecure? It’s time to figure it out.
Discovering the root of your problem will help you find a solution. If you’re the type that is too emotional, discover why you feel that way.
For instance, if you can’t stop thinking about someone, it may be that you’re deeply in love with them. Settle down and examine your emotions. Study your thoughts to know why you’re experiencing such feelings.
For instance, if you feel like your partner is having an affair, but you’re not sure, it may be a result of insecurity. After discovering the reasons, you can take the next step below.
4. Do not keep your emotions to yourself
Another way to regulate your feelings in love is to express yourself to your partner.
A study from the University of Texas shows that “hiding your emotions makes them stronger.”
Do not keep your feelings to yourself. Open up to your partner and tell them, how you feel. Having good communication skills is very crucial here.
Suppressing your emotions will only land you in a moody state. Your partner will be able to understand you if only you can freely express yourself to them.
5. Be willing to compromise
Overlook certain faults and move on. Do not try to respond to every word or silly action your partner takes. Rather, learn to bye-pass them. It will help you to be more emotionally strong and in control of yourself.
No relationship, either romantic or a long-distance one, can survive without the willingness of both parties to accept standards that are lower than desirable.
Likewise, when it comes to keeping our emotions under control. You must be willing to overlook certain behaviors in your partner.
6. Keep yourself busy
Do you find yourself worrying over unnecessary things? Distract yourself with some activities that fascinate you.
If you can’t stop getting mad or crazy at your significant other when they offend you, you can wave off those negative feelings by distracting your mind.
Keep yourself busy with some fun movies that will help you forget those emotions. Or you can motivate yourself with some good inspirational books.
7. Give yourself some space
Instead of losing your temper on your partner, give him or her some space. Evacuate that environment for the moment until you regain yourself.
You can even decide to socialize with your friends just to ward off those feelings. Look for a comfortable environment where you can relax and concentrate.
8. Purge away every negative thought
Rumination can stop you from having control over your emotions.
Purge away every negative thought you have against yourself or your partner. Change your mindset from bad to positive.
Stop dwelling on your past mistakes, or that of your partner. Learn to embrace the present and move on.
If there are mistakes you should pardon, do that with all your heart.
How do you keep your emotions under your control? Share it with us in the comment below.