Is your boyfriend manipulating you? Here are some signs of a controlling boyfriend to be aware of in your relationship.
A controlling relationship is the type of relationship where one dominates, manipulates or intimidates their partner just to be in charge of the relationship.
Most times, we don’t realize that our partner is going to be controlling in the relationship.
Maybe, as a result of how calm and innocent they look at the beginning of the relationship.
But as time goes on, you begin to notice that they are the ones giving orders on what you should and shouldn’t do in the relationship. It is a sign of a controlling partner in a relationship.
A controlling boyfriend manipulates through emotional abuse and physical abuse.
For instance, nagging attitude, criticism, isolation from your friends, decreasing your self-worth or confidence, trying to know everything about you at a time, having no respect or regards for your privacy, etc. All these are signs your boyfriend is controlling you.
These controlling behaviors manifest in the form of expectations by compelling you to cater to their needs and be subjected to them at all times.
“Controlling people often prey upon those they’re closest to, taking advantage of others’ introversion, submissive tendencies, or simple good faith,” says Yesh Sewdayal.
A controlling boyfriend often executes such behaviors as a result of insecurity. He is simply afraid of losing you. On the other side, some boyfriends control their girlfriend just to show their masculinity (qualities or attributes regarded as characteristic of men. For instance, strength)
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Signs of a Controlling Boyfriend.
1. He’s always nagging:
A controlling boyfriend will always want everything done now. He likes quarreling and arguing with you.
He constantly harasses you to do something. Most times, he will want those things done now (quickly). If he behaves this way, then he is a dominant boyfriend.
2. He isolates you from your friends:
A boyfriend that controls always isolates you from your friends. He tells you who to associate with, what to do, and what you shouldn’t do. He discourages your friends from visiting you because of his toxic attitude whenever they’re around.
3. You are always wrong and apologizing
A controlling guy is always on the defensive. He never apologizes or appreciates your efforts. In fact, he is always right (Mr Perfect). You are always wrong in his sight and you end up apologizing even when you’ve done nothing wrong.
A boyfriend who wants to be the head in a relationship often turns their fault on you. All he wants is to make you feel like you’re not doing it right, you are not being committed in the relationship, or may even make you feel like you’re a bad girlfriend who is not empathetic enough.
4. He threatens you
If your boyfriend always threatens to break up with y9ou if you don’t comply with him, then he is controlling you.
When he wants you to do something, and you feel like what he’s telling you to do is wrong, he will threaten to leave the relationship if you don’t comply.
5. You don’t make decisions for yourself
A controlling boyfriend does not allow you to stand for yourself. For instance, you want to visit a friend, but he would not allow you except you tell him who you want to visit or go out with.
He may sound protective (like he’s protecting you), but he is indirectly controlling you. He fights very hard to be your sole provider.
6. He disregards your privacy
If your boyfriend does not respect your privacy, then he is a controlling partner.
He does not take permission from you before accessing your phone. He checks your phone to read your messages or chat, he monitors you to know who called you, who you’re discussing with, etc. He always spam. All these are signs your boyfriend is controlling you.
7. He makes himself the center of attention:
Another sign of a controlling boyfriend is that he makes himself the certain of attention in the relationship.
A dominant boyfriend wants to be seen as the most important person in the relationship. He wants you to realize that you can do nothing without him. He wants you to make him your priority.
8. He forces you to do certain things
A boyfriend who controls will force you to speak or act in a certain way. Most times, he exaggerates events to his own favor. Anytime you go out without him, then be ready to answer all his questions.
9. He abuses you
A controlling Bf executes his controlling behavior through sexual, emotional or any kind of physical abuse. You feel drained after being together. The controlling man is most times toxic.
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10. His love is conditional
He promises to do something for you if you do another thing in return for him. Such love is conditional, and it is one of the tricks, controlling people use to manipulate their partner.
How to deal with a controlling Boyfriend
The best way to deal with a controlling boyfriend is to confront him.
Face the problem with courage. Let him know that you are not happy with the way he’s treating you. While confronting him, be careful with your words.
Don’t use offensive words on him as that may result in a fight. If he fails to listen to you, walk away from the relationship if you can no longer cope with the situation. It is better to be single and happy than to be in a bad relationship.
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