How To Be More Confident: 13 Ways To Boost Your Self-esteem
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How To Be More Confident: 13 Ways To Boost Your Self-esteem

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If you’re looking for a way to be more confident, you’re not alone. We all feel shy, incompetent or inadequate sometimes. But self-confidence is not inherent. It is something you develop over time.

Confidence is the ability to believe in yourself. It is a feeling of self-assurance emanating from appreciating one’s own qualities or abilities. Confident people are often assertive, attractive and even more successful than people who lack confidence in themselves. These are the importance or benefits of self-confidence.

In this post, I will be sharing with you, thirteen tips that will help you improve your confidence and boost your self-esteem. Building self-confidence is necessary. Below are little things you should start doing to increase your confidence.

How To Be More Confident

1. Develop a positive mindset

The first way to be more confident is to change how you view or perceive yourself. What we think about ourselves either increases or decreases our confidence. You have to develop a positive self-image. Stop thinking bad or saying ill things about yourself. If you often think you are incompetent to do certain things, you will never be bold and confident enough to confront your fear.

For instance, you want to speak in public. The moment you start thinking you’re inferior, you will definitely lose your confidence. So, change your mindset. Start seeing the better version of you no one else sees. It will help you to develop confidence in your abilities and act boldly when you meet people.

2. Be proud of yourself

You have to think big of yourself and avoid negative self-talk. It decreases your confidence. Stop comparing yourself with others. Rather, love and appreciate who you are. That is the only way you will feel comfortable with yourself and be more confident. If there are certain abilities or talents you think you don’t have, what of the ones you have? They’re enough to make you proud of yourself.

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3. Find out where you lack confidence

Are there certain areas of your life you’re not proud of? Can you work on those areas and make them better? That is the question you should e asking yourself if you want to boost your confidence.

What are the areas of your life that make you feel inadequate? Is it your background? Your stature? your finance or your academic qualifications? Are there certain things you’re not good at but they’re necessary for your life? I want you to write down those things that make you feel less confident and follow the next step below.

4. Make efforts to improve your life

We all feel confident when our life is in order. After you’ve realized those deficiencies in you, the next step is to work on them. Make every effort to improve those areas of your life you’re not proud of. For instance, if you hate your stature. Maybe you’re obese, try to lose weight by curtailing certain food consumption and practice daily exercise and some other tips that might help.

If you’re not good at speaking in public, practice talking to a few numbers of your friends. You can also practice speaking to yourself while watching yourself in the mirror. What are the areas of your life that make you not trust yourself? Work on them as soon as possible.

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5. Dress Smart

Personally, I feel less confident whenever I’m not properly dressed. Your dressing can influence your mood and how you feel about yourself. So, always make it a priority to dress nice. You will often feel good about yourself anytime you’re in your best outfit. So, dress smart, look good and smell good. It will improve your confidence.

6. Always make eye contact with people

You will know a person is confident through their body language or facial expression. Avoid looking away whenever you’re communicating with people. Assuming you’re talking to your crush and you don’t want to appear as being shy or less confident, the only way you can do that is to be bold and look into their eyes. If you’re shy to make eye contact with people, try and do it for some seconds and look away. Continue doing it until you get used to looking at them whenever they’re speaking. This is another habit that will make you more confident.

7. Be assertive

Confident people are assertive. Assertiveness is the quality of being self-assured and confident without being aggressive to defend the right point of view or a relevant statement. In the field of psychology and psychotherapy, it is a skill that can be learned and a mode of communication.

Always be bold to speak up your mind without fear of prejudice. Learn to say ‘NO’ or ‘YES’ when necessary. It is a sign you’re not intimated or afraid of criticism. And that is what it means to be confident in yourself.

8. Practice self-affirmations

Affirmations work more than you think. They are powerful words you can say to yourself to change the opinion you have about yourself. Affirmations like ‘I’m proud of myself, ‘I’m good enough to do this, ‘I cannot be intimidated’ etc. can enhance your confidence. Here are other examples of positive self-confidence affirmations to say every day to boost your self-esteem.

9. Care less about what people say

If you always take into consideration, every opinion people have about you, you will never feel proud of yourself. Avoid doing things to please people or to avoid being criticized. Just know that you will never be good to everyone. So, do your thing in your own way and leave the rest for people to gossip but don’t pay much attention to what they’re saying.

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10. Discover what boosts your confidence

Are there things you feel very proud of doing? Are there skills or talents that make you outstanding? Do more of those things to feel good about yourself. Whenever you feel inadequate in certain activities, remember they’re other areas you specialize in. So, always have that in your mind and you will never feel less confident again.

11. Learn new skills

Do you know that knowledge is power? What you know is better than who you know. Who you know may disappoint you but what you know cannot. Read that again.

I often feel more confident whenever I learn new things others don’t know about. Instead of complaining about the things you can’t do, go out and learn new skills and have a better experience. It will make you trust yourself more and depend on your abilities.

12. Be honest with yourself

Instead of pretending to be what you’re not, try and be true to yourself. Whenever you meet people, do not try to create a false impression about yourself. Tell yourself the truth by living up to your standard. But remember, avoid bringing yourself too low. If you do, people will stop respecting you and this will affect your confidence.

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13. Associate with People That Make You Feel Good

To be frank, if you don’t feel good about yourself, you will never develop or have self-confidence. Being confident begins when you feel good and comfortable with who you are. And this can only be achieved by associating with friends who make you feel great about yourself. Even if you lack self-confidence, their presence alone can boost your self-esteem.

So, if they’re certain things you can’t do alone, as a result of low self-esteem, try to involve your friends. Work with them and I believe that will make you more confident. Cheers!


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