Coping with divorce isn’t easy, especially if you never wanted a divorce. The emotional pains and trauma that accompany most divorcees are devastating. In this post, I will be sharing some tips on how to cope with divorce and heal from depression and heartbreak.
Why do people divorce?
Relationships fail for many reasons. The only reason why people divorce is the inability to cope, tolerate or continue with their marriage. When relationship problems are beyond control, divorce is inevitable.
The psychological and emotional effects of divorce
Depression, isolation from loved ones, and low self-esteem are the effects divorce bring on its victims. Those whose marriages have failed are likely to feel abandoned, rejected, and even suffer from low self-esteem, especially the children of the marriage. “Even though it is clearly not their fault, they will keep blaming themselves for something that they have done or said (Ross & Wyne 2010).“
This statistic shows that the rate of divorce in the United States is about 630,505 (45 reporting States and D.C.). People get married every day, and about 80% of those marriages end in divorce.
Below are things you should do after divorce to heal and continue with your life, even if you still love your partner.
How to cope with divorce
1. Get support from your loved ones
The first mechanism for coping with divorce is to get support from your friends and loved ones. Find someone who is trustworthy and share your feelings with. This can be a great source of strength during this difficult time, and they can help you overcome the feelings of loneliness, rejection and the pains that follow after divorce.
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2. Give yourself time to grieve
It is okay to feel bad after divorce. It is important you allow yourself some time to grieve over the breakup. This is a major life change and it’s normal to feel sad, angry, and confused. So, allow yourself some time to mourn before moving into a new relationship.
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3. Talk to your therapist
If you’re struggling to cope, consider talking to a therapist. They can help you work through your emotions and develop healthy coping strategies.
4. Go out and socialize with friends
Do not fall victim of self-stigmatization and isolation. Isolating yourself from family and friends will only make you feel depressed the more. So, endeavor to go out and mingle with your friends. You will feel the grieve or the pain more if you are always indoor. And sometimes, you will end up overdrinking alcohol as a medium to cope.
5. Take care of yourself
The best way to survivie a tough divorce is to take care of yourself. Your happiness, health and needs should be your priority. Avoid living in self-pity. Rather, love yourself better than before by taking care of your happiness and whatever you need.
6. Move on
The best divorce advice you can ever receive is to move on with your life. Accept the fact that the marriage is over and work on having a new life without your partner. You can move on by following the five strategies I mentioned earlier.
7. Try dating again
Dating after divorce can also help you deal with the trauma that follows after your marriage has failed. It is not bad to fall back in love after you have healed from divorce. This helps you get rid of depression, emotional pains and the feelings of rejection.
Coping with divorce is not something you do in a day. It takes time to heal and finally move on after separation. As you are battling with this emotional state, never forget that there are millions of people who are equally facing the same problem with you. Therefore, never stop loving yourself. It wasn’t your fault that your marriage failed. Even if it was, you still deserve to smile again. Cheers!.
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