When you want to deal with a narcissist, you will be looking for things narcissists hate most. And in this post, I will be sharing with you, 15 things every narcissist dislikes that will really hurt them.
Making a narcissist feel bad is only possible when you identify the things that upset them. That is the only way you can make your narcissistic partner or co-worker miserable. And if you are tired of being with them, here is my previous post about how to leave a narcissist.
What is a narcissistic personality?
Narcissistic disorder is a trait or a personality in which a person displays excessive admiration of oneself and one’s physical appearance. Narcissists show excess interest in their own life than others. That is why they are often seen as being selfish or self-centered. Narcissists want to be given attention all the time. For this reason, they try to manipulate their victims into doing things in their favor.
Below are a few things narcissists are allergic to.
15 Things Narcissists Hate
1. Being ignored
Narcissists hate it when they are ignored by someone, especially their victim. It makes them feel bad and unimportant. So, if you want to do something that will really hurt a narcissist, ignore them. It can be ignoring their words, and actions or even behaving as if you don’t know they exist.
Every narcissist craves attention and affection. So, They are allergic to being ignored by people.
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2. Opposition
Narcissists hate it when you stand up for yourself or challenge them. They want their victim to always be in their control, but they dislike it when you oppose them. For example, they don’t like it when you argue with them. Since they want to be the center of attention and affection, arguing with them is like telling them they are not good enough. All they want is for their victims to always believe and follow whatever they say.
3. Being criticized
If there is one thing, people, with narcissistic disorder dislike, it is criticism. Narcissists feel awful when you criticize their actions or try to point their faults to their faces. The reason is that they want to be seen as ‘perfect’ by others. So, criticizing them will make others see them as people with flaws instead of ‘perfect.’
4. Being turned down
The word ‘NO’ is one thing narcissists don’t like hearing. They hate being turned down by others, especially their victims. So, if you want to do what a narcissist hates, turn them down. They will feel bad and even try harder to make you say ‘YES’ to their requests.
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5. Being argued with
Narcissists hate engaging in arguments with their victims. They want to always feel superior to you, both intellectually and physically. Therefore, arguing with them is like trying to revive a dead wound.
6. Narcissists hate it when they’re not a priority to you
Everyone wants to be a priority to their loved ones, but narcissists over-desire it. They hate it so much when you don’t treat them like the king or queen they think they are. For example, they want you to give up on your needs to meet theirs. They want you to give them all your attention. Not only that, but they want you to make sacrifices for them to prove how much you love them. But if you’re not doing any of these, they think they’re not a priority to you and they feel bad about that.
7. They hate being exposed
Narcissists don’t like others seeing them as self-centered people. For this reason, they try their best to conceal their action or behavior. Exposing them to the public is like painting their clothes with dirt because you have finally exposed them to the general public. So, if you want to drive a narcissist crazy, expose them.
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8. Being upset with them
If you want to do things narcissists hate, try to lose control when you are together. They will be shocked, especially if you have been their victim for a long time now and you’ve never acted that way before. Narcissists don’t like it when you react with rage or anger. They see it as being rebellious to them.
9. They hate it when you’re happy
Narcissists are often insecure and they feel bad or dislike seeing others happy with their lives. They want everyone to be like them. If they are unhappy, they want you to be unhappy too. If they are happy, they want you to celebrate them instead of achieving the same goal to be celebrated by others.
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10. Not being under their control
Manipulation is the number one mechanism narcissists use to control their victims. And they don’t like it when you break out of their control. They hate people who are assertive and don’t like being controlled or manipulated by others.
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11. They hate being left alone
If you want to make a narcissist miserable, make them feel lonely. They hate loneliness and they try their best to avoid anything that will bring it their way.
12. They dislike apologies
Narcissists are proud people and they hate being told they are wrong, not to talk of apologizing when they are at fault. If you want a narcissist to hate or dislike you, tell them to apologize when they’ve done something wrong.
13. Narcissists hate being rejected by others
Narcissists want to be acknowledged and accepted everywhere they go. They feel very bad when they go for a thing and couldn’t get it. They want people to always see them as the most important people by accepting them even if they don’t merit it.
14. They hate it when you set boundaries for yourself
In a relationship, narcissists hate boundaries, especially when you keep them in check. They want the freedom to do anyhow and treat you the way they want and go away with it. So, if you want to do what narcissists don’t want, set boundaries for yourself and keep them in check.
15. Commitment
Narcissists don’t want to be tied to one person. They want the freedom to do whatever they want, especially when they’re in a relationship. So, commitment is a big problem for them.
Narcissists are most afraid of not being perfect. They live in a world where they believe they have to be perfect in order to be loved and accepted. This fear drives them to perfectionism and can lead to some serious problems in their lives.
There are a few things that can upset a narcissist: not getting their way, being contradicted, or being ignored. However, the thing that probably upsets them the most is feeling like they’re not the center of attention. So, if you’re looking to upset a narcissist, try giving someone else the spotlight.
Narcissists are known for being self-absorbed, self-centered, and egotistical. They crave attention and admiration and often feel superior to others. So, it’s no surprise that narcissists would dislike good people. Good people are often kind, compassionate, and humble. They don’t seek out attention or admiration and are content with who they are. This goes against everything that narcissists stand for.
Final thought
The thing that narcissists hate most is being challenged, questioned, or contradicted. To them, this is a direct attack on their superior sense of self. It’s common for them to respond to criticism with vitriol or deflection. Understanding this can help you identify a narcissist and avoid further emotional damage.
Before you go, read my next article on how to stop being a narcissistic partner.
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