20 Clear Signs Your Ex Is Testing You

If you are searching for signs your ex is testing you, then, your ex must be checking up on you that made you think that way. But does that mean your ex is trying to know how you feel about them? Read on to figure it out.

Whether it’s an ex-boyfriend or an ex-girlfriend that makes you ask yourself “is my ex testing me? There are little signs that can help you know what your ex is up for. At least, your ex will not just show up or try to make you feel their presence if they don’t have something in mind. But why would your ex test you after a breakup?

Signs Your Ex Is Testing You

1. They Flirt With You

If your ex flirts with you, they are testing you to know if you still have feelings for them. An ex flirting with you is a sign they want to know if you still find them attractive. Why will your ex flirt with you when you are no longer together? Don’t you see he or she is trying to achieve something? Your ex will not keep flirting with you if he or she has finally moved on and if they want to remain “just friends” with you.

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2. They tell you they miss you

Sometimes, when your ex keeps telling you how much they feel about you or how much they miss you, it might be a sign they are testing you to see if you also miss them. If your ex still likes you, they might not tell you directly but they will test you to know how you also feel about them by telling you they miss you.

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3. They ask for your help

Your ex might be tempting you to see if you are still willing to help them now the relationship is over. This will help them realize if they’re still a priority in your life or not. Also, they might be testing your love for them.

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4. They ask too many questions

If your ex is asking you too many questions, they might be examining you to discover a particular thing. They might ask you questions about your relationship, your job, or about a specific friend. No matter the area their questions are coming from, those might be tricks they are exploiting to test you.

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5. They pretend they don’t care

Sometimes, an ex might decide to know if you are serious about them, especially if you want them to return. The only way they achieve this is by pretending they don’t need you anymore. But inside of them, they are testing you to know if you really want to reconnect with them or not.

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6. They give you their attention

If your ex is now paying more attention to your words, your needs or any other thing that concerns you, they might be giving you a second chance. He or she might be testing you to know if you have really changed or if you will still take them for granted, especially if you were the one that sabotaged the first relationship.

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7. They stalk you on social media

Your ex might be testing your patience and self-control if he or she starts stalking you on social media after your breakup. Although they might be seriously hurt by the breakup, they might also be stalking you for a purpose.

8. You are not sure about how they feel

Another sign your ex is testing you is that their actions confuse you. They say one thing today and mean another thing tomorrow. Isn’t that enough to make you think your ex is examining you?

9. They suddenly appeared after the breakup

How long did your ex stay after your breakup before reappearing to you? Their sudden appearance after your breakup might be a sign they have come to test you. They might want to know if you have finally moved on or if you are still interested in dating them again.

10. They trigger your emotion

The final sign your ex is testing you is that they test your emotion. They try to make you jealous to know how you will react. And most times, they tell you painful or hurtful words to know if you will endure it.

11. They tell you you moved on so fast

Another way your ex tests you is by rushing to a conclusion to know your reaction. For instance, they tell you that you moved on so fast or that you are the cause of the breakup. They’re saying this to know if you are still willing to make things work.

12. They ignore you

Your ex might decide to test you by ignoring you to know if you will chase them. Sometimes, they ignore you to know if you will feel hurt or jealous.

13. They ask for a date

Does your ex keep asking for a date after your breakup? It is another way they test you to know if you are still interested. Accepting to go on a date with someone you just broke up with shows you’ve not moved on and that is what your ex wants to be sure of.

14. They touch you

Does your ex try to be intimate with you by touching you each time you are together? He or she might want to sleep with you but they are testing you by touching you to know how you will respond.

15. They remind you of the old days you spent together

When your ex wants to know how you feel about your breakup and the time you are not spending with them anymore, they test you by reminding you of your past life with them. They will remind you of the best dating spots you visited long ago and asks you if you still go there.

16. They have adopted the no-contact rule

Sometimes when your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend wants to know if you can stay happily without them, they cease all forms of communication with you. Most times, they are not doing that because it is what they ought to do after a breakup. But they are going no contact with you just to know if you are serious about the breakup.

17. They tag you in their post

Another sign your ex is testing you is that they tag you in a post to see if you will comment, leave the post, and even regret dumping them. So, take note of this signal. That your ex decided to tag you in a post on social media does not mean they just did that. They might have other intentions that you don’t know about.

18. They update their relationship status online

Did your ex quickly update their relationship status online after they broke up with you? This does not mean they’re now dating someone else. It might be a sign they are testing you to see how you will feel if you notice they have moved into a new relationship. Many exes do this often. Ask a friend who broke up with their partner, long ago and they will tell you.

19. They post a picture of a friend to see your reaction

Most ex tests their partner by posting a picture of a friend (the opposite sex), especially on their birthday and write many sweet things about that person. Sometimes they will write something like; happy birthday, darling, honey, sweetheart. I love you. These are emotional words that will trigger your jealousy.

20. They call or text you

Did your ex suddenly call you after a while of not talking to each other? It is a sign your ex is testing you to know if you will pick up their calls or reply to their texts now you are no longer together. He or she may be thinking that you will ignore them since they broke up with you. That they called you after a while of no contact does not mean they are missing you or wants to know how you are doing. Sometimes, they just want to know if you will answer their calls or text back.